Will County Court Approval for Anger Management Institute Program

Some good news from one of our recently certified Anger Management Trainer-Specialists:
“HI Lynette,
I received approval from Will County Court.  I sent the What’s Good About Anger? curriculum to Chief Judge Kinney, he reviewed it, and sent me approval.  I will be ordering the group curriculum, which is 10 books and the 12-wk workbook that I can duplicate soon.

Thanks, Tammy”

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-V
President: Anger Management Institute and CounselCare Connection, P.C.
1200 Harger Rd. Suite 602
Oak Brook, IL 60523
708.341.5438 (cell)

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News: What’s Good About Anger program is ‘evidence-based’…

I talked with Dr. Jim Bedell today. He said that the outcome studies he has completed so far show that the What’s Good About Anger program is ‘evidence-based’. The pre and post tests have been statistically significant in about the .5 range. He is still doing studies on participants in our groups and will be working with a statistician – providing a summary for the web site and those interested in the specifics of the results.

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-IV

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The World Needs Anger..

“The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.” Bede Jarrett

Today our troops killed Osama Bin Laden – the terrorist who has the blood of thousands of Americans, internationals, women and children on his hands. Today justice was done. Today an evil man has been destroyed.

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Anger Management Podcast by Rev. Ric Hardison

Listen to this Podcast on Anger Management from WCHS Radio 58 – ASK THE EXPERT – with one of our own Certified Anger Management Trainer/Specialists:  West Virginia

Rev. Ric Hardison, LPC, BCPCC, CAMS-I
KANAWHA PASTORAL COUNSELING CENTER
Charleston, WV 25301
304-346-9689, ext. 16

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CounselCare Connection, P.C. – Anger Management Institute
2000 Spring Road, Suite 603 – Oak Brook, IL 60523

630-368-1880

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The Healing Power of Forgiveness By Ray Pritchard

Few Christians realize nearly every problem in life stems from an unwillingness to forgive someone. When we hold grudges, seek retribution, and blame others, we end up hurting our relationships with God and peopleand shortcircuit our ability to live the Christian live the way its meant to be lived.

Why is forgiveness so difficult at times? Must we forgive when its the other persons fault? How should we handle repeat offenses? What if we feel we cant forgive because weve been hurt so badly?

Dr. Pritchard answers these questions and more by pointing to Gods example as the Supreme Forgiver. When we learn to forgive in the way He forgives, then we’ll know true freedom, peace, and emotional healing.

Read more on the Keep Believing Web site.
Sermon series: Total Forgiveness.

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When We Stop Playing Games by Ray Pritchard

The call came from an old friend, someone I have known for over 40 years. His marriage was in serious trouble, and more importantly, he saw clearly that unless he changed from the inside out, what happened to his marriage wouldn’t really matter. His wife wasn’t the problem, although she has her issues to deal with, and his rocky marriage was only a symptom of deeper problems. “It’s not her fault. She’s not the issue, I’m the issue. For a long time I’ve been struggling with my anger. I’ve decided that I can’t go on this way. A long time ago I had a close relationship with the Lord and I’d like to get it back. I know that forgiveness is a huge issue in my life and when I drink, that’s when my anger seems to come out and I end up saying stupid things and hurting my wife.”
Everything he said was true. Nothing was exaggerated or blown out of proportion. “I’ve decided to go see the pastor of the church we’ve started attending. How much should I tell him about our marriage? I’m not trying to hide anything, I don’t want to focus on my wife when I’ve got to deal with my own problems.” Just tell the pastor… Click here to read the rest of this blog post by Pastor Ray Pritchard.

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Envy, Anger and Forgiveness

Listen to this new podcast by Pastor Ray Pritchard: Envy, Anger and Forgiveness

For more resources visit www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-IV
CounselCare Connection, P.C. – Anger Management Institute
2000 Spring Road, Suite 603 – Oak Brook, IL 60523
630-368-1880, ext.1 

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Anger and Self-awareness

What makes you angry? Disrespect, loud noises, unfriendly, self-centered people, put-downs, rude behavior, people who break the rules? Anger is normal and it is an energy which can help you accomplish goals. But, if you can’t detect your anger in the early stages – you may find yourself over-reacting when something or someone triggers you.

Question:

A while ago I cut somebody off in traffic and this person was upset. This person pulled up beside me at the next traffic light and I apologized but this person wasn’t having it. They started swearing and threatening me and usually in the past I would get out and this person would be eating through a straw for the next month. I couldn’t help myself but to start getting angry and yelling comments back at this person. Eventually we just drove on. Any advice to help me keep control next time? Anon

Answer:

Maybe you are dealing with guilt and wishing you had handled the situation with a ‘cool head’. What if you had done something differently and had been more aware of your own anger and triggers?

How about writing out the road rage event and identifying what you were thinking. Most likely, you had “hot self-talk”. Hot self-talk will cause you to react more angrily than you normally would. Maybe you began saying to yourself- “I can’t let him/her disrespect and humiliate me that way!” “I’m going to tell him off!”, etc. It’s time to start thinking differently.

How about considering what is going on with that other person. Maybe he/she has a mental problem or has had a very stressful day. Maybe you could have counted to ten and just kept silent knowing that yelling was not going to help and actually could escalate the situation.  How about telling yourself that “this person isn’t going to get my goat.” or putting yourself in their shoes. There’s a reason they got so mad – that doesn’t mean it was justified or acceptable but, you did cut them off.

The problem is that you could have provoked that person more with your rage. Your outburst may have incited you (or him) to cause physical harm. 

When someone gets that enraged- it’s best to back off for your own protection. He can’t think straight. You can’t think straight and you won’t solve the issue then. Road rage – any kind of rage – leads to violence. You don’t need to become one of it’s victims or end up in jail.

Write it out:
What physical feeling did I sense? (flushed face, knot in stomach, tense muscles, tightness in neck/chest, etc.) What I thought (hot self-talk) –
How I acted (unhealthy behavior)-
What else could I think instead (calming thoughts)-
How else could I have responded (healthy action)-

Then, try out the new calming thoughts and healthy action the next time you get angry or someone provokes you.. Write out the consequences. What happened afterward? How did affect you and others? This healhier response should work out better for you!  

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-IV
CounselCare Connection, P.C. – Anger Management Institute
2000 Spring Road, Suite 603 – Oak Brook, IL 60523
630-368-1880, ext.1

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