I’ve been reading the Chronic anger symptoms and found a lot of identical things that often happens to me. Lately I’ve been in a real storm with my parents and some other people where slight problems often caused me to just go out of control and just hurl whatever words came out from my mind. Lately it’s all about my trip overseas where I got 2 weeks to go and things just doesn’t go smoothly. Just tonight, I found out that the people who promised me free accommodation didn’t deliver so that started another chain of arguments and worse. By the way I took aim at my mum a lot again and those people who I haven’t even met. So my venting’s just out of the world again. My dad told me I’m just egoistical & self centered. My mum told me I might got the attitude from my biological father since she kept saying that my blood are tied to him stronger as I am his first son. I didn’t really buy it though especially after I read about “Chronic anger” syndrome can you confirm that I actually got that or is it just my attitude needs fixing? I keep thinking it’s sort of unnatural but I can’t confirm it since I never seen a psychologist or whatnot. I can use some positive reassurance. Thanks
Other signs and symptoms frequently associated with the principal symptom of chronic anger are:
* constant hurrying
* speaking in a harsh, abrupt manner
* egotistical and self-centered behavior
* inability to relax readily
* high blood pressure
* inability to play or enjoy vacations
* verbal aggressiveness
* free-floating hostility
Dear Friend, so far “chronic anger” is not a psychiatric diagnosis. And the symptoms you list above could be associated with various mental health disorders. Anger – unhealthy/harmful anger – symptoms can be associated with disorders such as intermittent explosive disorder, ADHD or depression or bipolar disorder or a personality disorder.
You may be dealing with a mental health problem and this should be assessed by a professional. In any case, I believe attitude and behavior patterns play an important role in escalating anger and these factors can be changed!
Take this anger survey to see how serious your anger is. It sounds like you are motivated to manage your anger because anger is affecting your relationships and life detrimentally. You can learn skills and strategies which will help you cope with anger in healthy ways such as:
1. managing your stress,
2. identifying triggers and provoking situations, changing self-talk and any cognitive distortions,
3. communicating assertively and empathically,
4. applying forgiveness
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