God Can Help with Anger…2/25/08

Ask for God’s help with cousin’s anger By DR. BILLY GRAHAM

DEAR DR. GRAHAM:
How can someone who’s very nice one minute explode in anger the next? I have a cousin like this. He’s very active in his church, and I have no reason to doubt his faith, but it’s like walking on thin ice to be around him because you never know what will set him off. — Mrs. L.W.

DEAR MRS. L.W.: I’m not a psychologist, of course — but someone who angrily explodes every time he doesn’t get his way needs to face what he’s doing and take steps to overcome it. In extreme cases, they may even need professional help to discover why they harbor so much pent-up anger.Why is it important to deal with our anger? One reason is because almost nothing is as destructive as uncontrolled anger. Not only does it damage our relationships with others (as you’ve discovered), but it also leaves emotional and spiritual scars on our own minds and souls. The Bible rightly says that “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming” (Proverbs 27:4). It also says, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control” (Proverbs 29:11). Go here to Read rest of article.

Visit the What’s Good About Anger Institute for books, resources, podcasts, blogs, DVDs, certificate and trainer courses by Lynette Hoy, Marriage and Family Counselor, National Certified Counselor, President of the What’s Good About Anger Institute for anger management

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Conflict Resolution Skills training important in anger management

Anger is often generated when conflicts arise between people who do not know how to resolve them. Anger Management professionals should teach their clients the skills of conflict resolution. This is done by pointing out the various approaches to conflict resolution, some of which are passive and others more active. These approaches include the following:

  • avoidance (withdrawing from conflict),
  • accommodating (one person resolves the conflict by giving in to the other person at the expense of his or her own needs),
  • Compromising (gains and losses are shared by both people)
  • Forcing (one of both people attempt to satisfy their own needs regardless of the impact on the other person)
  • Collaborating (both people fully satisfy the needs of other; each individual is a winner)

We teach our clients that the best approach to conflict resolution is sometimes compromise, but almost always collaboration. Collaborating, however, is difficult and requires both people to look beyond the immediate problem and to somehow get on the same side of the issue on a more general level. (For instance, “we disagree on how to raise our daughter, but we both agree something has to be done”).

Collaboration takes creativity and work, but successful collaboration as a conflict resolution strategy can produce two winners and is the most assertive approach to conflict resolution.

For more information on Dr. Ari Novak’s and Dr. Tony Fiore’s approach to anger management training, visit http://www.angercertification.com/
www.ajnovickgroup.com
www.angercoach.com
www.angercertification.com

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC
CounselCare Connection, P.C.
Anger Management Institute

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Judgment, Curiosity & Anger Management

One of the concepts we teach in our model of anger management is to learn to not pass judgment so quickly and become more curious. While judgment tends to lead us in only one direction with one conclusion, curiosity opens up all different possibilities for the potential outcome or reason for why something happened or why a person behaved a certain way.This concept is borrowed from Narrative Therapy pioneer Michael White, but has dramatic uses for anger management. This concept will help better manage expectations as well as come to conclusions that are based on good reasoning rather than a hasty judgments.Judgments are usually made when we are either misinformed by others or we have a belief about something or someone that is not based on facts, but guided by emotions or irrational thoughts. When we pass judgment, it can often have damaging effects on the recipient as well as the relationship. Things are not always as they appear to seem, and a hasty judgment can ruin a potentially good situation or outcome.Curiosity on the other hand, opens up many possibilities for why something or someone behaved. When we are more curious and ask questions of curiosity, we are often surprised by the answers. This surprise or change in thinking can often lead to an improved view and a more fact based, realistic interpretation. Curiosity opens up unlimited possibilities for unique outcomes.

Why make a judgment before learning more about that person or their behavior? This judgment is part of a reflex response. We simply get in the habit of passing judgment too quickly or hear bad information and believe it to be true and pass the same judgment before attempting to learn more on our own.So, give it a try next time you find yourself passing judgment on someone. Ask them some questions about why they did what they did or how they came to the conclusion they did. You might actually learn something unique and different that would otherwise contradict your initial judgment. This will not only reduce your anger, but it will also deepen your relationship.

Permission granted to reprint this article by Ari Novick, Ph.D.- a highly respected leader in anger management.
Contact: Ari Novick, Ph.D.
at AJ Novick Group– Anger Management
333 3rd Street, Suite 4
Laguna Beach, CA 92651
949-715-2694

About the Author: Ari Novick, Ph.D. is founder of the AJ Novick Group. He is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert in the field of anger and stress management. Dr. Novick is also a corporate consultant and educator who has presented on-site corporate workshops and trainings to thousands of employees. To view his anger management websites visit Century Anger Management or AJ Novick Group or Anger Class Online

Posted by: Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC
President of the What’s Good About Anger Institute &
CounselCare Connection, P.C.
1100 Lake Street, Suite 245
Oak Park, IL 60301 — 708.524.3333
counselor@hoyweb.com

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Anger Management Classes in Cary and Oak Park, Illinois

Do you need to develop anger management skills for personal growth and/or to enhance your relationships or marriage? Are you mandated to take an anger management program by a court or employer or school? These programs will teach you to manage your anger effectively through research-based skills such as assertiveness, problem-solving, stress management, empathy, conflict resolution and forgiveness. ***Enrollment letters and Certificates of Completion provided. For Cary classes: Print out a brochure and Registration form! For Oak Park classes: Print out a flyer!

Cary Schedule: groups are scheduled to begin on the first week of each month. 
Open group times:
Monday evenings: 6:00 P.M. – 7:30 P.M.
Saturday mornings: 9:00 A.M. – 10:30 A.M.
Thursday afternoons: 4:30 P.M. – 6:00 P.M.

Oak Park Schedule: Tuesdays, beginning Jam. 22, 2008. 6:30-8 p.m.

Contact infomation and Locations:
Cary groups: Print out a brochure and Registration form!
Cornerstone Counseling
2615 Three Oaks Road – Suite 2A – Cary, IL 60013
Dr. James Bedell, Clinical Psychologist, Certified Anger Management Professional
(847) 516-8449 X 1
Robert Sexton, MS Candidate in Counseling, Certified Anger Management Professional
(224) 805-6622

Oak Park Group (begins Jan. 22, 2008): Print out a flyer!
CounselCare Connection, P.C. -1100 Lake Street, Suite 245 – Oak Park, IL 60301
Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, Certified Anger Management Professional (708) 524-3333 X 1
Robert Sexton, MS Candidate in Counseling, Certified Anger Management Professional
(224) 805-6622

Individual Payment Options:
1. Option One: 3 payments.
First month: one time payment of $120.00 for **Assessment and materials plus $200.00 for 4 classes.
Second and third months: $200.00 per month – 4 sessions each* ($50.00 per class)

2. Option Two: full payment of $650.00 (10% discount) for assessment, materials and all 12 sessions

* All fees are due prior to the scheduled month’s sessions.  We can assist you in obtaining applicable insurance benefits.

** Initial assessment session should be scheduled at least one week prior to the group start date.
 
***Enrollment letters will be provided to registrants. Certificates of completion will be awarded to those completing the programs. Letters of enrollment and certificates or completion can be used to verify registration, attendance and participation in programs for those who have been ordered to take anger management courses/programs by courts, employers or schools. 

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Trainer’s Conference Review and Comments..

45 professionals. leaders, law enforcement officers and educators from various states and Canada attended the What’s Good About Anger Institute- Anger Management Trainers conference Sept. 20-21st at the Carleton Hotel in Oak Park, Illinois! Steve Yeschek, LCSW and I (Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC) were co-presenters. Here are some of the comments from the participants:

What did you find most valuable from this course?

– Learning about anger coaching; the difference between counseling and coaching; testing material.

-The excellent curriculum provided; discussion and group activities.

-Books, manual and hand-outs.

-New perspectives on anger management!

-Very informative! It was great to get the DVD, manuals, etc.

-The materials are quite informative and knowledge invaluable.

-Materials are extensive! Between the book, handouts, powerpoint, DVD, handbook, etc. I feel very well-informed and prepared to begin anger management training.

-Good overview. Great materials. Very comprehensive too!  Lots of tools made available!

Additional Comments:

“The material was helpful. I really enjoyed the table talk with professionals.”

“Overall, you are doing a great work! I can see your organization growing by leaps and bounds!  Thank you!”

“Thank you for your hard work! It was great!”

“Would have liked more activities.”

“Give your power point presentation on the hand-outs.”

“Well-developed programs. Great setting.”

“Difficult to follow fill-in the blank hand-outs.”

“Extremely valuable to anyone seeking change and growth.”

“Prefer 1/2 hour lunches.”

“Would like more modeling of techniques.”

“Thank you for your pleasant personalities and sense of humor!”

The following statistics are based on the evaluations:
–  46% of the people rated the course a 4 out of 5,

–  26% rated the course as a 5/5, 

–  22% rated the course as average or satisfactory, 

–  Only 4% gave a below average rating.  

These stats overall reflect a good-excellent conference, as the majority – 94% – gave a satisfactory or higher rating!

We will be making some changes to the next conference based on comments from attenders.

Are you interested in teaching anger management to your clients, students, groups or classes? Download the new Leader’s Discount order form!

Take one of our distance-learning certification courses for trainers!

© copyright 2007 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC. Lynette is a Marriage and Family Counselor and the President of CounselCare Connection and a National Certified Counselor. She is the co-author of both editions of What’s Good About Anger?, the author of various anger management publications, the President of the WGAA Institute, and a speaker for community, women’s and church organizations.

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Sept. 20-21 Conference for Anger Management Trainers..

Register for the September 20-21, 2007 conference before Sept. 7, 2007!  Final discount of $50.00 for individuals and $75.00 for group registrants extended! Download this PDF description of the Anger Management Trainer’s Conference .  Licensed mental health professionals will receive up to 12 CEs. All participants will be granted certification as an Anger Management Trainer or Professional upon completion of both days. This conference is approved for CEs by the National Board of Certified Counselors and the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association (approved by the Illinois Department of Professional Regulation). The NAADAC – an organization for addictions professionals – accepts all NBCC approved programs and CEs. Many other state professional licensure departments accept NBCC approved programs and CEs.

Location: Carleton Hotel, Oak Park, IL. 708.848.5000.
Fees
: $350.00 for registrants prior to Sept. 7, 2007. $400.00 registration fee after Sept. 7th. Includes continental breakfasts, lunches, manual, book, DVD, power point presentation, Leader’s 12 week guide, 2 day conference, Trainer certification for all 2-day attendees. 12 CEs provided for licensed mental health professionals. Contact Lynette Hoy to register at: counselor@hoyweb.com or 708.524.3333, ext. 1
.

Read the web site description here: http://www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com/trainers_conference_2day.asp!

Can’t attend?  Take one of our distance-learning certification courses for trainers!

Can I use this certification from What’s Good About Anger Institute to teach Anger Management classes and coach/counsel clients?
…Yes, absolutely. Currently, there are no state laws that regulate anger management providers; therefore, trained and certified providers taking creditialed programs such as ours will gain the qualifications and recognition to offer programs, sessions, classes and courses.

The Anger Management Trainers Conference Sept. 20-21, 2007 (2 Day) Brochure
This conference co-sponsored by the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association (IMHCA) and CounselCare Connection, P.C. provides anger management trainer certification for participants, and fresh, research-based methods for previously certified trainers. This program has been approved by the National Board for Certified Counselors and IMHCA for CEs.
Conference curriculum is based on the expanded 2006 edition of What’s Good About Anger?, the B.A.R.K. manual and the revised “What’s Good About Anger Advanced Trainer’s manual. Counselors, leaders, correctional and probation officers, pastors, facilitators and educators are invited to attend and learn effective anger management skills and techniques for motivating and educating clients and students! Trainees will gain skills for: assessing potential students, teaching effective and practical anger management techniques, facilitating groups, managing difficult behavior and more!

Where can I find out more information about your distance-learning certification for trainers, coaching and conferences? Visit the What’s Good About Anger Institute shopping mall: http://www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com/
Register for the September 20-21, 2007 conference by downloading this PDF description of the Anger Management Trainer’s Conference

…Please contact Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC at: or 708.524.3333, ext. 1 or at: counselor@hoyweb.com

© copyright 2007 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC. Lynette is a Marriage and Family Counselor and the President of CounselCare Connection and a National Certified Counselor. She is the co-author of both editions of What’s Good About Anger?, the author of various anger management publications, the President of the WGAA Institute, and a speaker for community, women’s and church organizations.

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Educating Physicians to Manage Their Anger…Aug. 3, 2007

A New Anger Management Opportunity:  Educating Medical Professionals….As the President of the What’s Good About Anger Institute – I was recently contracted to present a one-hour anger management lecture for the physicians at Norwegian American Hospital in Chicago September 6th. This lecture has been approved as a function of the hospital’s continuing medical education!  Since  the program has to comply with established standards by the Illinois State Medical Society it must include pre and post test questions.

It took me awhile to come up with pre and post true/false test questions for scientifically minded medical professionals!

In my 20 years of nursing experience (prior to becoming a counselor in 1990) – I often encountered stressed-out, angry and even raging doctors in hospitals, institutions and operating rooms!  These professionals are greatly in need of developing anger management and emotional intelligence skills. We hope to play a part in promoting healthy behavioral change for those in the medical arena.

Our Institute intends to market similar presentations to other hospitals. Not only does it pay very well – it is a wonderful opportunity to educate highly-educated medical professionals on the nature, complexity and usefulness of anger!

Are you interested in becoming Certified to teach groups/classes or coach individuals to manage their anger effectively? Consider attending the following conference:

The Anger Management Trainers Conference (2 Day)

Illinois Mental Health Counseling Association and
CounselCare Connection, P.C. presents:
The What’s Good About Anger Institute – Anger Management Trainer’s Conference
September 20-21, 2007

by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC and Steve Yeschek, LCSW.
Click here to learn more

Or take a distance-learning Trainer course:

40 hour Advanced Trainer Certification Course –

Advanced Anger Management Trainer and Coaching Certification:

The leading anger management organizations are now recommending that all anger management trainers, educators and facilitators be required to complete 40 hours of anger management education and training certification.

Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC

Marriage and Family Counselor

President, What’s Good About Anger Institute

Diplomate, AAAMP; Anger Management Specialist

http://www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com/

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Anger Management Trainer Certification … 6/17/07

What is Anger Management Trainer Certification? The What’s Good About Anger Institute Training Course offers certification in anger management for mental health counselors, social workers, pastors, educators, health professionals, probation and law enforcement officers through our distance-learning courses and training conferences. These programs provide participants with skills for teaching, coaching and counseling clients and students to manage their anger. The curriculum includes topics covering an overview of anger, assessment and progress tools, effective strategies for managing anger, 12-week guide for teaching groups or coaching individuals, marketing tips, facilitation skills and more!
Visit the What’s Good About Anger Institute shopping mall for a description of the  distance-learning trainer courses.
Register for the September 20-21, 2007 conference by downloading this PDF description of the Anger Management Trainer’s Conference .  Licensed professionals will receive up to 12 CEs and certification when you attend both days. This conference is approved for CEs by NBCC and IMHCA/IDPR. Call Lynette Hoy to register at: 708.524.3333, ext. 1.

Read the web site description here: http://www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com/trainers_conference_2day.asp!

Can I use this certification from What’s Good About Anger Institute to teach Anger Management classes?
…Yes, absolutely. Currently, there are no state laws that regulate anger management providers; therefore, trained and certified providers should offer programs, classes and courses.

What makes your organization reputable?
… The National Board of Certified Counselors and the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association have both approved the What’s Good About Anger Institute Anger Management Trainer’s Conference for continuing education training (total 18 CEs in 2006 and 12 CEs in 2007) for LSWs, LCSWs, LPCs, LCPCs, LMFTs in Illinois and NCCs. Our program has been accepted and approved by the U.S. Probation Office in Tacoma, Washington and the McHenry County Probation office in Illinois. Our core trainers are experienced, professional marriage and family counselors and anger management specialists: Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC and Steve Yeschek, LCSW. Lynette is the co-author of both the What’s Good About Anger? first and second editions and the sole author of all the workbooks and trainer manuals. Lynette and Steve have trained hundreds of clients, students and professionals in anger management.

The Anger Management Trainers Conference Sept. 20-21, 2007 (2 Day) Brochure
This conference co-sponsored by the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association (IMHCA) and CounselCare Connection, P.C. provides anger management trainer certification for participants, and fresh, research-based methods for previously certified trainers. This program has been approved by the National Board for Certified Counselors and IMHCA for CEs.
Conference curriculum is based on the expanded 2006 edition of What’s Good About Anger?, the B.A.R.K. manual and the revised “What’s Good About Anger Advanced Trainer’s manual. Counselors, leaders, correctional and probation officers, pastors, facilitators and educators are invited to attend and learn effective anger management skills and techniques for motivating and educating clients and students! Trainees will gain skills for: assessing potential students, teaching effective and practical anger management techniques, facilitating groups, managing difficult behavior and more!

Register for this conference by downloading the PDF of Anger Management Trainer’s Conference description.
Call Lynette Hoy to register at: 708.524.3333, ext. 1
.

Will the courts accept this model?
There is no single model of anger management that is the accepted “standard” for state courts in any state courts in the country. There are various researchers and noted authors in anger management, who all have very different views of the strategies needed to effectively manage anger. Our model is quickly becoming more recognized and accepted as a leading intervention for anger management, and to date, we have not had a single participant of any of our programs turned away for using the What’s Good About Anger – Anger Management model, classes and distance-learning courses. Our model uses some of the research-based material from Dr. Gary Gintner’s Behavioral Anger Reduction Kit along with widely-accepted interventions and skills for anger management. If the viability of your program or agency is every questioned, you can quickly remind the courts that the model you are using has been accepted and approved by courts throughout the USA; is being recognized for training of U.S. Probation officers and is approved for the training (providing CEs) of mental health professionals nationally by NBCC and in Illinois by IMHCA.…Interestingly, most anger management clients do not come from the courts. Most clients are either self-referred or referred by their employer.

There is no single model of anger management that is the accepted “standard” for state courts in any state courts in the country. There are various researchers and noted authors in anger management, who all have very different views of the strategies needed to effectively manage anger. Our model is quickly becoming more recognized and accepted as a leading intervention for anger management, and to date, we have not had a single participant of any of our programs turned away for using the What’s Good About Anger – Anger Management model, classes and distance-learning courses. Our model uses some of the research-based material from Dr. Gary Gintner’s Behavioral Anger Reduction Kit along with widely-accepted interventions and skills for anger management. If the viability of your program or agency is every questioned, you can quickly remind the courts that the model you are using has been accepted and approved by courts throughout the USA; is being recognized for training of U.S. Probation officers and is approved for the training (providing CEs) of mental health professionals nationally by NBCC and in Illinois by IMHCA.…Interestingly, most anger management clients do not come from the courts. Most clients are either self-referred or referred by their employer.There is no single model of anger management that is the accepted “standard” for state courts in any state courts in the country. There are various researchers and noted authors in anger management, who all have very different views of the strategies needed to effectively manage anger. Our model is quickly becoming more recognized and accepted as a leading intervention for anger management, and to date, we have not had a single participant of any of our programs turned away for using the What’s Good About Anger – Anger Management model, classes and distance-learning courses. Our model uses some of the research-based material from Dr. Gary Gintner’s Behavioral Anger Reduction Kit along with widely-accepted interventions and skills for anger management. If the viability of your program or agency is every questioned, you can quickly remind the courts that the model you are using has been accepted and approved by courts throughout the USA; is being recognized for training of U.S. Probation officers and is approved for the training (providing CEs) of mental health professionals nationally by NBCC and in Illinois by IMHCA.…Interestingly, most anger management clients do not come from the courts. Most clients are either self-referred or referred by their employer.

Is this the only certification training available to the public?
…There are many models and programs available now provided by reputable and experienced educators and professionals. Lynette Hoy is a Diplomate with the American Association of Anger Management Providers and a Professional member of the National Anger Management Association. The What’s Good About Anger Institute offers an extremely high quality model with research-based interventions. Those trained by WGAA have had their programs and classes approved and accepted throughout the USA.
See http://www.aaamp.org/ and http://www.namass.org/ for their directory of providers and trainer programs.

Why should I get certified as an Anger Management Trainer by the What’s Good About Anger Institute?
…This specialized training will assist you in working with clients, individuals and groups that specifically have issues relating to anger and stress management. Anger management is not psychotherapy; therefore, most clinicians are not properly trained to work with such clients. Our certification is ideal for educators, clinicians, parole, probation and correctional officers, clergy, substance abuse and domestic violence counselors, health professionals, human resource managers and anyone who wants or needs to help clients with anger related problems. Our model uses proven and effective techniques to teaching clients skills using our copyrighted curriculum. 99% of WGAA students and clients all have demonstrated improvement using our skills and techniques. Our training helps you to reframe anger and motivate others to change. We are now quickly growing and offer excellent anger management training. We will actively help you understand how to market your organization, list you in our directory and provide discounts on all client workbooks and support materials. We provide individual support for our trainers and students!

Where can I find out more information on your certification trainings?
…Please contact Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC at: counselor@hoyweb.com or 708.524.3333. Visit the What’s Good About Anger Institute shopping mall for a description of the  distance-learning trainer courses.

Register for the September 20-21, 2007 conference by downloading this PDF description of the Anger Management Trainer’s Conference

© copyright 2007 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC. Lynette is a Marriage and Family Counselor with CounselCare Connection and National Certified Counselor. She is the co-author of What’s Good About Anger?and a speaker for community, women’s and church organizations.

 

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