Defusing Anger…

Did you know you can actually help drain someone else’s anger! King Solomon wrote a Proverb (15:1): “A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Giving a gentle answer worked for Gideon – a righteous man in the Old Testament. When the Midianites who were very angry accused him – he responded with a compliment and the passage goes on to say: “their anger subsided.”

Here’s a way to deal with someone who is trying to provoke you: Use this technique to confuse them… lighthearedly agree with them when they are making a critical comment about your clothes. This is called “fogging”.
Ex: “You really think I have no taste.”

Responding in such a way helps you maintain control by not taking the comment seriously. It breaks the escalation cycle by side-stepping an aggressive counterresponse (Feindler & Ecton).

Don’t let anyone make you angry!  Don’t give them any control over you and your emotions!
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Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-V, CCTP
Diplomate, Consultant and Trainer with the NAMA; Certified Anger Management Specialist-V; President, CounselCare Connection, P.C. Andy Anger Management Institute
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